Tamara Hirsch

Divorce Mediation

Tamara Hirsch, LCSW, JD* has helped hundreds of families through the divorce process. For Tamara, divorce mediation is a natural way to combine her unique professional backgrounds in law and counseling and her lifelong dedication to helping people communicate and negotiate through conflict.

Tamara is a certified divorce mediator who has completed advanced divorce mediation trainings with Boston’s Mediation Works Incorporated and The New York Center for Interpersonal Development. Tamara is a member of the Academy of Professional Family Mediators, the National Association of Divorce Professionals (Brooklyn Chapter), the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation, the Family and Divorce Mediation Council of Greater New York and the *Massachusetts State Bar.

Mediators do not choose the conflicts they become involved in, but the parties to the conflict choose the mediator. Their participation as the intermediaries is based on the trust of all the conflicting parties.”
— Martti Ahtisaari



What is divorce mediation?

Mediation is a voluntary process in which a neutral third party helps parties to make informed decisions together about parenting and finances in order to reach the mutually agreeable terms of their divorce. Divorce Mediation is a way for couples to work together to reach an equitable resolution. Through mediation with a seasoned practitioner, divorcing parties will get assistance in communicating and problem solving in order to come up with resolutions that feel fair to both parties. The process will help you focus on what you want in the future, for yourselves and your children.


Why choose Mediation?

Divorce is a stressful, and often painful, process. Divorce litigation increases not only the emotional stress for divorcing families, but creates a heavy financial burden. The sad reality is that in most cases, the only parties who “win” in divorce litigation are the attorneys involved. By contrast, divorce mediation is an informal process that allows the parties to keep control of the process, reduce expenses significantly, and work together to create a settlement agreement that both people can live with. Research also shows that compliance and satisfaction with mediated agreements is higher than when imposed by a court, resulting in less post-divorce litigation.

Mediation significantly reduces hostile feelings during and after the divorce, so that individuals can better adjust to the divorce and plan for the future, which is particularly important when children are involved.


Can we mediate if we can’t communicate?

Yes. Qualified mediators are trained to help parties shift into new and productive ways of communicating and problem solving, even while they are working towards their divorce.


How long does mediation take?

The pace of mediation is determined by the parties - not by the court, attorneys or a judge. Unlike litigation (which can take one to two years to complete), mediation is typically completed within a few months. Each mediation session lasts for about two hours, and sessions are typically scheduled two weeks apart. An average mediation takes between six to ten hours to complete. However, the number of sessions varies case to case, depending on the issues involved. The parties determine all of these details, depending on what works for the particular individuals and issues involved.



Who is involved in mediation?

The divorcing parties and the mediator are involved in mediation. The parties can also involve other professional experts such as attorneys, accountants, lawyers, financial planners and child psychologists.

Both parties are encouraged to seek independent legal advice during the mediation process. Even if the mediator is a lawyer, the mediator is a neutral party and cannot provide either party with legal advice, only legal information.


How much does mediation cost?

Mediation costs a fraction of litigation. There is one fee for both parties, not two. In most litigated cases, the retainer required by one party’s litigation attorney costs equal to or greater than the combined total cost of mediation.

Mediation is charged on an hourly basis. Please contact me for rates.

How do I get started?

Please contact me to schedule your first appointment, or call for a free telephone consultation: (646) 598-2283

The goal of resolving conflict in a relationship is not victory or defeat. It’s reaching understanding and letting go of our need to be right.
— Unknown